Acceptance
When acceptance is someone's top need, it's important that they are liked, even though they might be a little different. It's important that others don't try to change or fix someone with this top need.
Affection
When affection is someone's top need, they might especially feel loved when others give them hugs, kisses, or pats on the back.
Appreciation
When appreciation is someone's top need, you like it when someone recognizes your accomplishment or effort—especially noticing the things you have done—and shares their thanks.
Approval
When approval is someone's top need, you feel especially loved when others brag on you or speak well of you. It means that you like to be acknowledged for the kind of person you are, not just the things you do.
Attention
When attention is someone's top need, you might really like it when someone calls just to say they were thinking about you or want to spend time with you.
Comfort
When comfort is someone's top need, it's very important that others respond to your hurt with words, feelings, and a gentle touch.
Encouragement
When encouragement is your top relational need, you like it when others cheer you on towards a goal.
Respect
When respect is your top relational need, it's particularly important for others to communicate that they value you, your ideas, opinions and even your schedule.
Security
When security is your top relational need, it's likely very important for you to experience safety and trust. It may be especially important that there are no threats and no aspects of harm in your relationships or your environment.
Support
When support is your top relational need, you feel loved when someone comes alongside you and provides gentle, appropriate help with a problem or struggle.
